It’s supposed to be sparkly, it’s supposed to be exciting, it’s supposed to be filled with newness and shine. Ahh a New Year. A day when, for whatever reason on January 1st we convince ourselves things will be different- but will they?
I love lists. We’ve talked about this before. So the concept of making a year-long list of “to-dos” is extremely exciting to me. If I were ambitious I could look back in old journals and see resolutions back to when I was young, when “spend more time with the neighbours dog” was a logical resolution.
My ambitions have changed slightly since then. I’ve resolved to spend more time with friends, to eat healthier, to exercise, to actually do my laundry more than once every three weeks- you know, adult things. Every year I’ve enjoyed creating those resolutions. I’ve managed to keep them up, for about a month. Finding myself annoyed, disappointed and unimpressed come February, chanting in my head “next year we’ll do better!”
It never bothered me, until this year.
I’m struggling with the whole “resolutions” concept this year. My mind unsure which way to turn, annoyed for the first time at this “new year, new you” mantra folks seem to have adopted.
“What should they be?”
“Why do they matter?” …”Do they matter?”
“Who said January 1st had to be the day, and whoever it was, how dare they tell me what to do!”
“What is a GOOD resolution?”
“Are my resolutions bad?”
It’s taken me half of January, a lot of brain power and even more time spent journaling to figure it out.
So far I’ve come up with this…
Just because it’s January doesn’t mean a new goal has to be achieved.
Just because the gyms are packed doesn’t mean you need to be there.
Just because everyone is losing the “holiday weight” doesn’t mean you need to rush into it.
Just because it’s January 15th doesn’t mean you can’t make a goal now, you can make a goal on August 10th for all anyone cares.
Just because it’s a new year doesn’t mean you need to make goals, or be accountable to a list at all- give yourself a break.
What a new year does mean is a chance to refocus, to reinvest in YOU.
So this year that’s what I’m doing. Not making resolutions that I’ll do because I “should” or everyone else is. Rather doing what’s right for me. Taking the pressure off, focusing instead on what I need.
Right now that means actually drinking water, eating no dairy products, reading more and detoxing from my phone.